MenAlive started in 1969 once I held Jemal, my new child son, in my arms and made a vow that I’d be a distinct sort of father than my father was in a position to be for me and to do all the things I may to create a world the place males had been totally healed and concerned with their households and communities all through their lives. In 1972 I launched MenAlive as my window to the world to share what I used to be studying about love, life, survival, and transformation.
In June, 2026, I can be providing thrilling new and expanded providers at MenAlive. I’m on the lookout for women and men who acknowledge the world is altering and who need to obtain one of the best steerage and assist accessible to assist them to reside totally, love deeply, and make a optimistic distinction on this planet. If this sounds such as you, learn on.
When our daughter, Angela, was born in 1972, it turned clear that boys and males’s well being and women and girls’s well being had been eternally intertwined and we couldn’t enhance one with out enhancing the opposite. My spouse Carlin and I now have six grown kids, seventeen grandchildren, and 6 nice grandchildren. We’re dedicated to serving to to rework our lives for the great of all and for future generations.
I’m positive I don’t need to persuade you that people reside in methods which are out of steadiness with the legal guidelines of nature. We acknowledge this imbalance as our local weather disaster, limitless conflicts, and lack of ecological variety. As “geologian” and historian Thomas Berry warned,
“We by no means knew sufficient. Nor had been we sufficiently intimate with all our cousins within the nice household of the earth. Nor may we hearken to the assorted creatures of the earth, every telling its personal story. The time has now come, nonetheless, after we will hear or we are going to die.”
Many individuals have given up on humanity and picture that the world can be higher off with out us. Others hope that Synthetic Intelligence (AI) will save us. I used to be given a distinct imaginative and prescient throughout a sweat lodge ceremony at a Males’s Management Convention in Indianapolis, Indiana in 1993.
The imaginative and prescient allowed me to see the sinking ship of civilization and the emergence of lifeboats to a brand new way of life. Based on Václav Havel, Czech statesman, writer, playwright, and dissident,
“Immediately, many issues point out that we’re going by means of a transitional interval when plainly one thing is on the way in which out and one thing else is painfully being born. It’s as if one thing had been crumbling, decaying, and exhausting itself, whereas one thing else, nonetheless vague, had been arising from the rubble.”
I’ve written in regards to the imaginative and prescient and what I’ve been studying in quite a few articles over the past 33 years. In my most up-to-date article describing the imaginative and prescient, “How You Can Survive and Thrive because the Ship of Civilization Sinks,” I supplied quite a few insights I’ve gained. Listed here are a couple of:
1. “Civilization” is a misnomer. Its correct identify is the “Dominator Mannequin.”
I quoted my colleague Riane Eisler who wrote in her guide, The Chalice & The Blade,
“Underlying the nice floor variety of human tradition are two primary fashions of society. The primary I name the dominator mannequin, what’s popularly termed both patriarchy or matriarchy — the rating of 1 half of humanity over the opposite. The second, by which social relations are based on the precept of linking might finest be described because the partnership mannequin.”
2. There’s a higher world past civilization.
Daniel Quinn was the writer of quite a few books, together with Ishmael and Past Civilization: Humanity’s Subsequent Nice Journey.
“If we go on as we’re,” says Quinn, we’re not going to be round for much longer. You don’t need to ‘go someplace’ to get past civilization, you need to make your residing a distinct means.”
I’ve realized there’s a completely different means we are able to reside. Let’s construct it collectively.
3. We have to discover our tribe exterior the confines of civilization.
Tribalism has taken on a pejorative that means, however tribal life is what makes is human.
“The tribal life and no different is the present of pure choice to humanity,” says Daniel Quinn. “It’s to humanity what pack life is to wolves, pod life is to whales, and hive life is to bees.”
Of their guide, Nurturing Our Humanity: How Domination and Partnership Form Our Brains, Lives, and Future, Riane Eisler and Douglas P. Fry say that for tens of millions of years we lived as hunger-gatherers and so they had been “the unique partnership societies.” They go on to say,
“For greater than 99 % of our roughly two million yr historical past our hunter-gatherer ancestors lived with the next values: (1) General egalitarianism; (2) Equality, respect, and partnership between ladies and men; (3) Nonacceptance of violence, conflict, abuse, cruelty, and exploitation; and (4) Ethics that assist human caring, prosocial cooperation, and flourishing.”
Come Be part of Our MenAlive Tribe
Starting, June 21, 2026, I’ll begin a brand new chapter in my skilled life. Up till now I’ve served my neighborhood within the following methods by means of: (1) Particular person and couple counseling, (2) Articles and books, (3) On-line programs. I’ve been getting extra requests to start out an on-line neighborhood the place folks may obtain extra targeted steerage and assist to higher navigate these difficult occasions.
The core of what I’ve been providing, and what I really feel is critically essential right now in human historical past, is targeted on relational well being and well-being.
On Father’s Day, June 21, 2026, I’ll launch a brand new MenAlive tribal neighborhood that builds on my fifty-plus years of labor at MenAlive and gives extra providers, steerage, and assist. Those that be a part of will alternative for extra direct interplay with me the place you may “ask me something” and obtain trustworthy suggestions. Along with my very own experience, I can be introducing you to my colleagues who’re additionally specialists within the area and have nice deal of knowledge to share.
Listed here are a couple of of my colleagues you’ll meet:
Darlene R. Walley, PhD
Dr. Darlene R. Walley is at the moment the chief government officer of NEXT Life Sciences, which focuses on reproductive healthcare. Walley has over 30 years of life science enterprise expertise, having served as an government at Procter & Gamble, Gillette/Oral-B laboratories, and Arm & Hammer.
Dr. Walley holds 12 patents, largely coping with client well being merchandise, and has over 13 publications. Walley acquired a bachelor’s diploma in chemistry from Case Western Reserve College and a PhD in natural chemistry from the College of Cincinnati.
Dr. Walley will spearhead Plan A™ and convey it to market and as well as, oversee the R&D efforts in different male contraception choices NEXT Life Sciences is creating. You possibly can learn my article and interview with Dr. Walley right here.
Joe Conrad
Joe Conrad is a artistic entrepreneur and a digital well being pioneer who believes within the energy of innovation, creativity and expertise to resolve any downside. In 1990 he based Cactus, a purpose-driven branding and inventive company with the mission of rising manufacturers that assist folks thrive.
He’s additionally the founder and CEO at Grit Digital Well being –– a staff of specialists in behavioral well being, wellness, expertise and advertising dedicated to transcending limitations like stigma and entry to assist folks get the assist they want, when and the way they want it. Joe and his staff are the creators of Man Remedy, an progressive and award-winning marketing campaign that makes use of humor to interact working-age males in an immersive, entertaining, digital expertise the place remedy truly occurs. Joe is the writer of the forthcoming guide, Man Remedy: Remedy the Approach a Man Does It. You possibly can watch my current interview with Joe Conrad right here.
Caitlin V. Neal
Caitlin is a thought chief in trendy masculinity and male sexuality. Additionally identified merely as Caitlin V., she emphasizes the necessity to reshape how society views males’s roles and the dynamics between women and men in as we speak’s world. Caitlin’s work is devoted to empowering males by instructing them the important abilities to reach trendy relationships and life, serving to them embrace authenticity, confidence, and intentionality. By way of her transformative method, males foster deeper connections and redefine masculinity on their very own phrases.
Caitlin V’s journey started with a ardour for understanding human sexuality and its profound affect on our lives. Over twenty years she has cultivated a deep understanding of the intricate nuances of intimacy, pleasure, and connection. She has greater than 850,000 social media subscribers, 140 million video views, and 15,000 college students. You possibly can see my interview and article with Caitlin right here.
If you need extra details about the way forward for MenAlive and our new and expanded neighborhood, drop me a word to Jed@MenAlive.com and put “MenAlive Tribe” within the topic line. These are difficult occasions with fantastic alternatives for many who need to come collectively in assist of that my colleague Charles Eisenstein calls “the extra stunning world our hearts know is feasible.”